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“It’s complicated.”

I really like the sound of that. It probably invites more questions and makes a good conversation piece – but there is something to that phrase that also makes the subject at hand not as convoluted as it seems. Depending on the situation, it may even let you off the hook.


“Nah, you won’t understand.”

“Try me.”

“It’s complicated, really. We could be here all day.”


But I cannot really figure out why it amuses me so whenever I see those words boldly written on a person’s profile, on everybody’s favourite online community.

Instead of marking one’s self as “single”, “in a relationship”, or “married”, there is this fourth option that is bound to raise an eyebrow or two.

“So… it’s complicated, huh?”

“Yeah…” you would roll your eyes, heave a great sigh, and seemingly dismiss the topic with a quick wave of your hand.

And your once-avid listeners, sensing no juicy answers forthcoming – oh well, maybe they really do understand after all, although they will later entertain themselves with theories and speculations – will nod silently, exchange knowing looks, and nonchalantly reach for their drinks, like grandmothers having a tea party out in the garden on a blue, sunny day.

You know, that probably sounds easier than having to tackle questions left, right, and center on “How come you got married also never invite me wan?”, or being teased constantly on “Got boyfriend/girlfriend already ah?”

Life is complicated, anyway.


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Details of this entry.Monday, April 17, 2006, filed under Musings.
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  1. Maybe everyone’s favourite online site should just create the non-polite version of that and say “Not your business”, since everyone is abusing the “complicated” one already.

    Mint | 18/04/06 08:20 AM

  2. agree with Mint. before they had the complicated thingy, everyone was something else. why is everything so complicated all of a sudden? just because some website said u could be?
    it’sjust that everyone loves being mysterious and seemingly mired in some ‘complicated’ relationship.
    the truth of the matter is, there’s probably a lot of them who are attached but looking for someone on friendster to ‘complicate’ them.

    soporific | 18/04/06 10:35 AM

  3. Mint – Yeah, well… actually, I thought it’s rather interesting why that many people choose to go with that option.

    “Not your business” sounds so in-your-face, teehee.

    Soporific – Ah, I didn’t know that they didn’t have this option back then (er, I’m a latecomer).

    “It’s complicated” does sound interesting and mysterious, really. Maybe I was wrong – probably by choosing that option, it does invite questions and you subsequently make more friends that way?

    Is this some research thing that that online community website has conducted to stir things up? Ooh.

    Strizzt | 18/04/06 08:39 PM

  4. Hehe.. I agree with soporific. I think the ‘it’s complicated’ option is not really for those who are confused, but who want to have the best of both worlds.

    Shom | 18/04/06 10:49 PM

  5. Or you could answer with a question “forget about me, tell me about yourself. What’s blah blah blah?” and act interested.
    I use it all the time.

    Adam | 19/04/06 02:25 PM

  6. I was thinking: if they are already attached and still put “it’s complicated”, wouldn’t their respective partners give them a bonk on their heads…

    Shom – Heh. Just a status change will enable you “to have the best of both worlds.”

    Adam – Ah, the art of digressing. A topic change in conversations could come in handy sometimes…

    Strizzt | 19/04/06 08:33 PM

  7. partners also putting it’s complicated.

    soporific | 21/04/06 03:33 PM

  8. Soporific – Cheh. Okay, so they will have to give each other a bonk on their heads.

    Strizzt | 21/04/06 09:28 PM

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